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    MY CHILD'S STRENGHTS

    Based on astrology, the brightest children’s talent is not the one they enjoy from beginning but the one that requires to be developed. It is also confirmed by Albert Einstein in his famous statement: “Genius is 1% talent and 99% hard work...”
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    But from Psychology side it is dangerous to push or force child to do something that he/she refuses to do.
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    So, what is the solution?
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    First we need to find the exact talents of the child. You can find all your child’s talents from Birth Chart right after her/his birth. This approach is very common in India when parents create a Horoscope for a newborn and plan in advance child’s development based on their her/his strong sides and limitations.
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    Then we need to pick the right time to develop a particular talent. Young age is not always suitable for talent development. You may know many cases when a person only in adulthood discovers some new talents and becomes successful & gets recognized in society.
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    Then we need to find a right approach. It happens often when a child meets some difficulties in studies/talent’s development because he/she has some limitations in understanding new things through the particular source of information. In this situation everything matters: time, environment, written form or audible, visualization, structure, methodology, etc.
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    And last factor is to find the right person to learn from. English is my second language. And I remember when my English Language teacher told me that I don’t have any talent in languages when I was 14 yo. And I really couldn’t learn any English from her. I took other classes later and now I can communicate in 5 different languages. This is an example when my teacher was just wrong person to teach me – we just had a bad mental compatibility. If child has a bad metal compatibility with the teacher – he/she won’t be able to learn a subject or will have great difficulties which will lower his/her self-esteem or interest to the subject.
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    All these 4 factors are crucial in child’s development. Feel free to ask questions to learn more.
     
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    Clarifying doubts in relationship: Feelings

    This question relates to honesty and trust or lack of understanding of your partner’s feelings.

    Let’s check if you can understand your partner’s feelings by taking this small test:

    1) Try to remember your partner’s last complains and make notes – what did he complain today? Yesterday?

    Some Example: weather is cold today, I am late to work, why should I wait for you again?, don’t interrupt me please, my boss is killing me, your friends have negative influence on you, etc.

    2) Now, ask him if you understood all his complains correctly. Then ask him to score you from 0 to 5 depending on how accurately you understood him.

    Conclusion: If your score is 5, it means that you are attentive to your partner’s feelings and emotions - you can really understand them. So, if you have some doubts related to his feelings (he loves you or not, he wants to be with you or not, is he happy or not), you may be right.

    If your score is lower than 5, it means that you have some issues in understanding his feelings and emotions, and your doubts may be based on misunderstandings which is good to clarify.

     

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    Clarifying doubts in relationship: Why is he doing it?

    This question relates to understanding your partner’s behavior and motivations in decision-making process.

    Let’s check if you can understand your partner at this level by taking a test:

    1) Try to remember your partner’s last 3 decisions which he made independently. Some examples: He washed his car yesterday after work, he called his friend today, she skipped her gym session, he didn’t call me yesterday, she quit her job etc.

    2) Now write down your motivations: why did he wash his car yesterday after work? What was the real reason he called his friend today? Why did she decide not to go to the gym? What made him not to call you? What is the real reason for her to quit the job?

    3) Ask your partner to verify your answers and score you from 0 to 5.

    Conclusion: If your score is 5, it means that you can really understand your partner’s motivations and his decision-making process. So, if you have some doubts related to his decisions (why doesn’t he take you to meet his friends or parents, why he left you alone) – your guesses may be correct but it is always better to get his confirmation.

    If your score is lower than 5, it means that you have some issues in understanding your partner’s motives and decisions; your doubts may be based on misunderstandings which need to be clarified before jumping into conclusion. 

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